Despite looking as cute as a button with her newly bobbed hair, she is being so challenging at the moment. The every day things in life are a battle. She's waking early and is so tired that she has a tantrum. She doesn't want breakfast because she's too busy so she has a tantrum. She doesn't want to get dressed because she's emptying her toybox so she has a tantrum. Dora the Explorer finishes on the tv so she has a tantrum. You get the drift! I know it's part of her age and her gaining independence and learning but oh, it's getting me down! It's very hard because she communicates so well. She was an early talker, so her speech is very advanced, and her comprehension is amazing. As is her memory. So on one level we have this fantastic relationship where we can really talk, and she's funny, and caring and loving and great to be with so when she does have a huge tantrum I find it really difficult that this wonderful little person who understands so much feels the need to throw herself on the floor and rant. She also has her father's stubborness so if she decides she's not going to do something, then she's not going to do it. I just have to keep reminding myself of my parenting mantra "This too shall pass"... and exhale, and breathe...
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It does all pass and it's not just you - I find that shared pain is lessened pain somehow, even if it doesn't help day to day.
I know what you mean about communicating, good verbal skills. I'm lucky, Ella is a very reasonable child in terms of being able to talk to her and (for now) she listens to me. A girlfriend of mine has a daughter a few months older than ella and while she's gorgeous, she is a tantrum girl. You can't reason with her, screaming, door banging, throwing herself down the works. The first time she did it at our place Ella and I just looked at each other in shock, what do you do? Her poor mum has 3 very demanding children and they just don't listen. It's not that she's not a strong parenter, they're just so willful - I just thank my lucky stars!
I think talking is key though - sorry, there's a positive here. Telling Olive how you feel when she's not helpful, telling her that she needs to help you etc etc. I'm sure these are all things you're doing - but if I tell Ella she's upset me, she tries to put it right in a 4 year old way.
wow - she is so cute with her new hairdo
yes, remembering to breath is crucial at this developmental stage...I have one there too...And Breathe...
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